Dentist, paying off debts,butlins, mumsnet and its only 10 am March 14, 2008

I took twins to dentist.  We used to have this Scottish guy who liked his hair.  His teeth really did shine.  Its a private dentist and uber posh. It used to have bubbles floating up a central tube that went from the bottom to the top of the building, but then it moved to the town centre and now its all lime green doors and panoramic photographs of African villages. 

The twins were called in and i said ” see you in a bit” as i sat and read the vitriol of yesterdays Daily Express and its Labour Party hatred. ” Aren’t you coming with us?” asked Ez.  Now there were a couple of reasons i didn’t want to .  I think that at 15 years old kids are supposed to see the dentist on their own. I have always gone with them  before. Secondly, i hate being shouted at.  How can i force 15 year olds to brush their teeth?  I am just glad they aren’t doing drugs! This is a Prime example of ignoring rubbish things to make your life better for that moment.

When we had the Scottish Dentist Facist, he would shout at me. On Josephs v. last appointment before he was no longer eligable for free NHS treatment (on account of him working full time and being a virtual adult and paying taxes etc.) the Scottish Dentist Facist shouted at me.  I am a fairly non confrontational person in real life until i get really really riled. I just shrugged at SDF and told him that if Joseph didn’t clean his teath properly at 16, theres not a lot i can do about it.

5 mins later Ez leaves the Dentist room and is on her phone “…..no, am at the dentist” i hear from up the corridor.  Then i do that shouty/whisper things that all mums can do, it isn’t really a whisper at all becuase it’s really loud ” Ez! are you on the phone? put that away right now! The dentist heard my shouty whisper and called me in. Told me a summary of what treatment was needed. He(new dentist) isn’t a facist and this i something that the twins noticed becuase they “like that dentist” they said.  The SFD is now a fully qualified cosmetic reconstructive dentist as well as just being a fan of self preening, i bet he snowboards!  We were informed by letter about these new qualificationsof SDF, just as they added at the bottom that he wouldn’t be seeing NHS plebs.

I took the kids to school (after coming home to pick up a history book) and then i had to go round to see Josephs ex driving instructor.  He phoned last night telling me how J has cancelled his last two lessons and owes him £44.

We dragged J out of his g/f house last night and i proceded to go Jeremy Kyle on his arse whilst Dh was valiantly trying to inject structure into my rantings about Js fuckwittery.  It ends up becuase i know this driving instructor through work, that i have to go and pay him out of my money.  This is becuase it turns out that J has got himself into a financial mess.

I found out by accident he owed someone at work as well.  I dispair. Anway, J didn’t get paid as much as he usually does  ( i made him show me the payslip) this is becuase the bitchboss where he works posthumously told him he didn’t have enough holidays to take nd therefore took it out of his wages. - this is bullshit as they run from Jan - Dec and he hasn’t been taking holidays .

He is unhappy at work and i applied to Butlins for him, post of housekeeper and he has an interview! -  i know - i know he should have done it himself but he didn’t and i can’t watch him stay here and hang around with fuckheads and do nothing with his life.  Now Butlins might not seem much to you, but it would be such good fun. The best bit is he gets to live there. Independant living only 30 miles away. party time, great memories. God i hope he does it. I want him to move out ….in a safe way….but i don’t really want him here anymore.  This sounds perfect.  He can work as a builder for the rest f his life - youth is indeed wasted on the young.  He needs to be young and if he can do this whilst being somewhere else FANTASTIC! another example of how to ignore rubbishness in your life - send it to Butlins.

I had a ‘flurry’ of e-mails all along the same lines ” don’t leave mumset’  whilst the sentiment is appreciated i was a bit confused and so went on to mumsnet and found a thread that said that Rhubarb and i had left. I dont think we have ? I certainly wouldn’t want it to be a ‘thing,’ a flounce  - dont we all come back eventually?(apart from ks)  I just have some reconciling to do.  I have reconciled with 2 out of the 3 Mumsnetters involved. But i can’t really get over Justines e-mail, it was quite blunt and sweary.  Now i don’t kow whether i should consider it a compliment that she thinks we are on those kinds of familiar terms.  I was talking to Rhubarb at the time and i dont think i got it over particularly well….but she knew what i meant….so shall try - but it mighn’t make sense!

e-mail is a different format than a website. It id  like coming into your private space and i certainly think that its more formal.  I was very upset at the mail - so much so that i was dreading looking at my inbox. I wasn’t living in fear or anything melodramatic fgs!! but when it cme time to look at my e-mails i got a feeling of dread.  So i decided this was silly, and i confined it to spam.  She can send a mail but it will be instantly deleted.

On the one hand this is silly - i don’t know what might have been said or not - but i am a great believer in cutting out he things in your life that make it rubbish as detaled above!  At the moment Mumsnet is making it rubbish.  I think its a shame that the mumsnet bods see fit to allow Caitlins comment stand in the name of my ‘SOH’ failure. I think its hurtful and should be taken away. I am not sure whether it is allowed to stand becuase of the authors celebrity or becuase of mumsnets pissed offness at me. either way - both rubbish.

so for now  am not up for the rubbish - but i might be back next week. might not…might…might not..might.

joined some other parenting forums. did you know that BMC now charge £12 to post…..robbing bastards. I joined “raising Kids” but its boredom central in there.  Where people believe that rapists should have ther genitals cut off….yes …thats the level of debate and it goes unchallanged.  Besides it has ‘moderators’  but hey! its ok for the main part.

Joined a couple of others with tickertape<barf> havent given them a try yet - might do today. although i do have a house to tidy and clothes to wash for tonights Tapas night out in Brighton. Then again there is ’summerland’ my new series to watch. I watched the last ever ‘Everwood’ i was gutted

Was even more gutted as Darling Husband told me that it was cancelled for ‘One Tree Hill’  well thats the reason that ‘The OC’ was cancelled too.  I loved ‘The OC’ I hate ‘O.T.H’ now, but you know i have to watch it.  Ez loves it becuase of Chad Michael Murray.  He looks such a twat!

i shall forever love Seth <sniff>